She’s Sitting Right There. And Nobody Knows.
A note to my 32 brave ones and every woman still hiding in the back row.
Thirty-two of you said yes.
You didn’t have to. You could have scrolled past, kept the secret tucked where you’ve been keeping it, and moved on. But something in you stirred, and you clicked, and here you are. I want you to know this was not an accident. This was Jesus being intentional about you before you even knew what you were looking for.
So before I say anything else, I need to say thank you. Not a quick, polite, social-media thank-you. A real one. From the part of me who has sat in your shoes, carried what you’re carrying, and wondered if anyone would ever say what needed to be said out loud.
You are the reason this exists.
Maybe this is you…..
You show up on Sunday. You sing the songs. You may even raise your hand during worship. But there is something you have not told a single person in the building. Something you carry out to the parking lot every week, buckle into the car, and drive home with. You sit with it at the dinner table. You carry it into the quiet moments when the house gets still, and the thoughts get loud.
You have been affected by an abortion
And you have been hiding it like it’s the thing disqualifying you from everything else God might want to do in your life.
Let me be clear……
You are not disqualified. You are not too far gone. You are not the exception to the grace that everybody else in the room gets to receive. I will continue to proclaim this message because Jesus died for ALL of us, and His heart is that each one of us who are imprisoned in shame and guilt be set free. This is what we need to be hearing from the pulpits.
The church has a silence problem.
I love the church. I am not here to tear it down. But I will tell you the truth: the church has not always known what to do with pain from abortion. So, instead of doing the hard thing, we have done the quiet thing. We have preached around it, danced beside it, built programs almost touching it but not quite. As a result, many women have learned this particular wound does not get named in this particular place.
Sitting in silence is not healing, it is just hiding behind a religious Christian mask.
The Worthy Womb exists because we deserve a place where the hard conversation actually gets to happen…where someone will sit across from the weight of what is being carried and not flinch…where we can call it what it is, grieve it like it deserves to be grieved, and then let Jesus do what only He can do.
This is that place.
Jesus is not waiting for you to clean yourself up first.
Religious performance will wear you out. It tells you you have to arrive presentable. Fixed. Further along. It tells you healing is somewhere on the other side of doing enough, being enough, praying enough. So you perform. You exhaust yourself. And the wound stays exactly where it was.
But that is not who Jesus is.
He did not wait for the woman at the well to get her story straight before He sat down next to her. He knew everything she had ever done, everything she was ashamed of, every man, every choice, every secret. And He sat down anyway. He initiated. He went out of His way to be right where she was.
He is doing the same thing with you right now.
He is not looking at you through the lens of your worst moment. He is looking at you through the lens of who He created you to be before anything else got written on top of it. Shame will tell you what happened defines you. But God’s Word says something completely different.
“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here.” 2 Corinthians 5:17
The old is gone. Not buried. Not on probation. Gone. The new is already here, and it has your name on it. Your identity is not up for debate. It just needs to be restored back to what HE says about you, not what shame and guilt have been saying for years.
This is the mission.
One billion women. I know how audacious it sounds. Good. So was the cross.
We are going after every woman sitting in silence in a pew, in a car, in the dark of her bedroom wondering if she is the only one. We are going after her with the truth healing is not only possible, it is available right now. Jesus is not a last resort. He is a first response. Her identity was never actually taken from her. It was buried under guilt and grief and years of performance. But He knows exactly where it is, and He is intentional about getting it back to her.
This is the work. And you are now part of it.
Whether you are here because this is your story, or because you love someone living theirs, or because something just said show up, you are not here by mistake.
Welcome to The Worthy Womb.
The conversation starts here. And it does not stop until every woman who needs to hear it, hears it.
Let’s go.
Coach Amy Fit 4 The Kingdom Ministries theworthywomb.substack.com
Ready to stop hiding and start healing? Reply to this post or reach out directly at theworthywomb@substack.com. You do not have to figure out the next step alone.
So needed!!!! Thank you for being bold! So many more will be ministered to through your obedience here. 🙏
This was beautiful! Thank you Amy for sharing.